anak remaja (fb wan nursyakira)

Bila anak baligh meningkat remaja, nafsu seksual mereka sudah wujud dan apa2 ransangan seksual akan pasti memberikan kesan pada perasaan dan badan mereka. Jadi WAJIB pesan 5 benda ini berkaitan pergaulan dengan lain jantina 👇

1. Jangan sentuh lain jantina walaupun berlapik. Tak dibenarkan dalam agama dan akan beri ransangan pada badan kita. 

Sentuh kulit ke, sentuh rambut ke, tak boleh. Jaga sentuhan!

Rasulullah memberikan amaran yang keras kepada pasangan yang bercinta namun mereka seronok berpegangan tangan. Sabda Rasulullah:

لَأَنْ يُطْعَنَ فِي رَأْسِ أَحَدِكُمْ بِمِخْيَطٍ مِنْ حَدِيدٍ خَيْرٌ لَهُ مِنْ أَنْ يَمَسَّ امْرَأَةً لَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ

“Andai sekiranya kepala salah seorang di antara kamu ditusuk dengan jarum besi itu adalah lebih baik baginya daripada menyentuh wanita yang tidak halal buat dirinya.” (HR al-Tabrani)

2. Jangan berdua-duaan dengan lain jantina. JANGAN SESEKALI. 

Rasulullah S.A.W bersabda:

لاَ يَخْلُوَنَّ رَجُلٌ بِامْرَأَةٍ إِلاَّ وَمَعَهَا ذُو مَحْرَمٍ

Maksudnya: Tidak boleh untuk seorang lelaki itu berdua-duaan dengan seorang perempuan melainkan bersama-sama dengan perempuan itu mahramnya.

Riwayat Muslim (1341)

3. Jangan berdua-duaan secara MAYA dalam internet. Bermesej dengan lain jantina . 

Khalwat atau berduaan ini bukan boleh jadi dalam realiti, dalam MAYA pun boleh pada zaman sekarang.

4. Jaga mata daripada melihat aurat orang lain dan soft pornografi seperti aksi berciuman, bersentuhan, berpelukan.

Jaga mata daripada melihat mereka yang tampan dan cantik kalau ia boleh menggangu hati dan perasaan serta iman kita. Bukan jaga mata pada benda lucah sahaja, tetapi jaga mata dari rasa sangat terpesona dengan ketampanan dan kecantikan seseorang itu pun LANGKAH PERTAMA menjaga hati.

5.  Jangan menonton dan melihat terlalu banyak video/drama cintan cintun yang boleh mempengaruhi hati dan membuai perasaan yang tak perlu.

Apa yang anak remaja tengok, itu lah yang membentuk perasaan dan cara berfikir.

Terbuai-buai dengan kisah cinta semata-mata sedangka zaman remaja adalah waktu puncak untuk meneroka potensi diri dan mencuba pengalaman baru yang bermanfaat.

6. Jika ada perasaan suka dan cinta pada lain jantina, itu adalah normal tetapi perlu diuruskan dengan baik dan mengikut agama. Cinta dan suka datang bersama tanggungjawab dan dibenarkan hanya antara suami dan isteri sahaja.

Beritahu anak kita supaya berdoa agar Allah gantikan perasaan tersebut dengan rasa semangat belajar dan jadi orang yang lebih baik dari semalam.

Couple akan mengganggu fokus kita dalam mencari potensi remaja dan menghilangkan berkat dalam kehidupan kerana melakukan zina hati. Terbuai-buai teringatkan kekasih itu tak dibenarkan.

Daripada Abu Hurairah RA bahawa Rasulullah SAW bersabda: "Sesungguhnya ALLAH telah menetapkan bahagian 'zina' untuk setiap anak Adam, dia akan mendapatkannya dan tidak boleh dihindari, maka 'zina' mata dengan melihat, 'zina' lidah dengan ucapan, 'zina' hati dengan membayangkan dan merasakan syahwat, sedangkan kemaluan membenarkan semua itu atau mendustakannya." (Riwayat al-Bukhari dan Muslim)

Simpan rasa kasih dan cinta itu untuk pasangan yang sah dan halal.

kiasan

Lidi banyak yg dah patah. Tali nak buat ikat pun dah mulai mereput. Akar sirih makin rosak..Kalau takde rotan, akar kayu pun boleh juga diguna pakai.

Lidi nak kena raut kemas-kemas, kumpul lidi rapat-rapat ikat bagi ketat,

sebab banyak sampah di tanah rumah yang perlu disapu. 

pokok sirih nak kena siram bagi subur,

sebab daun kaduk dah sibuk memanjat bumbung,

kejut kaum keluarga sanak saudara dari lena, sebab panas mentari makin lama makin tinggi, 

jangan terus dibuai mimpi.

Treat your wife well.

If a man believes he can protect his children while hurting his woman, he is deeply mistaken. What you give to your woman—whether love, respect, or pain—is what she will pass on to your children. This is an undeniable truth of life, one you cannot escape. A woman is the emotional and spiritual foundation of a home, and her well-being influences the emotional climate of the entire family.

When a man nurtures and supports his woman, he creates an environment where love and safety thrive. This love flows through her and reaches the children. A woman who feels cherished and respected will radiate warmth and stability. Her sense of peace will naturally create a secure world for her children to grow and flourish in.

On the other hand, when a man chooses to hurt or neglect his woman, he disrupts the harmony of the home. Her pain doesn’t stay confined within her; it becomes a silent burden that shapes the atmosphere of the household. Children growing up in a space filled with tension and emotional distress often internalize those struggles, carrying them into their own lives.

It is essential for a man to recognize that his relationship with his woman sets the foundation for his children’s emotional development. If he provides her with love and security, his children will learn the importance of healthy relationships and emotional intelligence. If he chooses to cause her harm, he risks teaching his children to repeat the same patterns of dysfunction.

A woman’s role in a family is unique. She is often the heart of the home, and her energy influences the rhythm of daily life. When a man honors this role and treats her with care, he empowers her to fulfill it wholeheartedly. This empowerment doesn’t just benefit her—it shapes the emotional well-being of their children for generations.

A man cannot claim to be a good father while being a poor partner. His treatment of the mother of his children is one of the greatest lessons he teaches them. Sons will learn how to treat women by observing their father, and daughters will learn what to expect from men. Therefore, a father’s actions have a profound and lasting impact.

Many men fail to see this connection, assuming they can compartmentalize their relationships. They believe they can show up as loving fathers while being absent or hurtful partners. But children are incredibly perceptive. They notice the unspoken dynamics and carry those observations into their understanding of relationships.

The truth is, children thrive in an environment where both parents are emotionally healthy and supportive of one another. A man who uplifts his woman not only strengthens her but also creates a stable foundation for his children to grow upon. His love and respect set an example that shapes their worldview.

Men must also recognize that protecting their children goes beyond physical safety. It involves creating a space where emotional security is prioritized. This cannot happen if the mother of the children feels unsupported, neglected, or hurt. Emotional wounds within the family ripple outward, affecting everyone.

To truly protect your children, protect their mother. Nurture her spirit and honor her contributions. When you invest in her happiness and well-being, you invest in the emotional health of your entire family. What you give her, she will magnify and return to your children tenfold.

So dear man, the greatest legacy a man can leave for his children is the example of a loving and harmonious partnership. By treating his woman with care and respect, he teaches his children the value of love, kindness, and mutual support. This is the universal truth you cannot escape—and one every man must embrace.