Saturday, July 11, 2026

Surah al-Kahfi: Berani Berpatah Balik

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Assalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuh اللهم صل على محمد وآل محمد

Surah al-Kahfi: Berani Berpatah Balik 

Ada masanya, keberanian bukan ditunjukkan dengan terus melangkah ke hadapan, tetapi dengan kesediaan untuk berpatah balik.

Kita sering menganggap bahawa orang yang berjaya ialah orang yang tidak pernah menoleh ke belakang. Katanya, masa lalu perlu ditinggalkan dan hidup mesti diteruskan. 

Benar, kita tidak sepatutnya terperangkap dalam masa lalu. Namun, tidak semua pandangan ke belakang bererti kita gagal bergerak ke hadapan.

Kadangkala, kita perlu menoleh untuk bermuhasabah. 

Ada kesilapan yang perlu diperbetulkan, petunjuk yang terlepas pandang dan jalan yang perlu ditelusuri semula. Jangan biarkan ego memaksa kita terus berjalan hanya kerana malu untuk mengakui bahawa kita telah tersalah arah. 

Jika diteruskan juga, mungkin kita semakin jauh daripada destinasi yang sebenarnya sedang dicari.

Perkara ini dapat dilihat melalui perjalanan Nabi Musa AS ketika baginda mencari Khadir, 
Nabi Musa AS keluar bersama seorang pemuda yang menemaninya, iaitu Yusha‘ bin Nun.

Mereka membawa seekor ikan sebagai bekalan. Allah SWT menetapkan bahawa tempat ikan itu hilang menjadi petunjuk kepada lokasi pertemuan dengan Khadir AS.

Namun, dalam perjalanan tersebut, ikan itu telah hilang ketika mereka berhenti di sebuah batu. Yusha‘ terlupa untuk memberitahu Nabi Musa AS tentang kejadian itu. 

Mereka pun meneruskan perjalanan sehingga melepasi tempat yang sepatutnya dituju.

Setelah perjalanan semakin jauh dan keletihan mula terasa, Nabi Musa AS meminta makanan. Pada saat itulah Yusha‘ teringat kembali tentang ikan yang hilang berhampiran batu tersebut.

Bayangkan keadaan itu.

Mereka sudah berjalan jauh. Tenaga telah digunakan. Masa telah berlalu. Namun, tempat yang dicari sebenarnya telah pun mereka lewati.

Apakah Nabi Musa AS terus berjalan hanya kerana sudah terlalu jauh untuk berpatah balik?

Tidak.

Baginda segera menyedari bahawa kehilangan ikan itu bukan sekadar kejadian biasa. Itulah petunjuk yang selama ini dicari. Allah SWT merakamkan respons baginda:

قَالَ ذَٰلِكَ مَا كُنَّا نَبْغِ ۚ فَٱرْتَدَّا عَلَىٰٓ ءَاثَارِهِمَا قَصَصًا

Maksudnya:
“Nabi Musa berkata: ‘Itulah yang kita kehendaki’; lalu mereka berdua berpatah balik ke situ dengan menurut jejak mereka.”

(Surah al-Kahfi, 18:64)

Menurut Imam al-Mawardi, ungkapan:

ذَٰلِكَ مَا كُنَّا نَبْغِ

bermaksud: “Itulah yang kita cari.”

Perkataan نَبْغِ membawa maksud “kita mencari”. Nabi Musa AS memahami bahawa tempat ikan itu hilang ialah tempat yang dijanjikan untuk baginda bertemu dengan Khadir AS.

Tanpa berlengah, mereka pun berpatah balik.
Imam al-Baidhawi menjelaskan bahawa ungkapan:

فَٱرْتَدَّا عَلَىٰٓ ءَاثَارِهِمَا

bermaksud kedua-duanya kembali melalui jalan yang telah dilalui sebelumnya. 

Manakala perkataan قَصَصًا menggambarkan mereka menelusuri semula jejak perjalanan dengan bersungguh-sungguh, mengikuti kesan langkah mereka sehingga kembali ke batu tersebut.

Perjalanan ke belakang itu bukan perjalanan orang yang kalah. Itulah perjalanan yang membawa Nabi Musa AS kepada destinasi sebenar dan menemukan baginda dengan seorang guru yang akan mengajarkan hikmah-hikmah besar dalam kehidupan.

Daripada kisah ini, kita belajar bahawa tidak semua langkah ke hadapan membawa kita semakin dekat kepada tujuan. Kadangkala, semakin lama kita berjalan, semakin jauh kita tersasar.

Apabila menyedari kesilapan, jangan malu untuk berhenti. Jangan takut untuk menoleh. Dan jangan terlalu ego untuk berpatah balik.

Mungkin ada keputusan yang perlu dinilai semula. Mungkin ada hubungan yang perlu diperbaiki. Mungkin ada dosa yang menuntut kita kembali kepada Allah SWT. 

Atau mungkin ada petunjuk yang pernah hadir, tetapi kita terlepas pandang kerana terlalu sibuk mengejar apa yang berada di hadapan.

Berpatah balik bukan bererti kita menyerah. Kadangkala, itulah satu-satunya jalan untuk sampai.

Kerana orang yang benar-benar tersesat bukanlah orang yang tersalah jalan, tetapi orang yang sudah mengetahui kesalahannya, namun tetap enggan kembali.

Hazmi Irsyad
Tadabbur Centre

Thursday, July 9, 2026

How to survive with a husband who won’t change

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Assalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuh اللهم صل على محمد وآل محمد


How to survive with a husband who won’t change...

This reminder is for sisters who cannot leave their husbands and cannot afford therapy or counseling. Sisters who feel stuck. They can't leave their husbands but aren't happy staying either.

1. Accept that your husband won’t change. Sometimes women waste a lot of energy trying to change a man. This is harder when kids are involved. A man will only change when he wants to. You can try, if it works, great! If it doesn't, put that same energy into building yourself rather than changing him.

A lot of times, men don't change. Many husbands are truly tough to live with. They don't adore you, compliment you, or love you the way you want. Start adoring and complimenting yourself. Don't rest your happiness on his shoulders.

2. Do more of what you both love instead of fixating on what isn't working. Focus on things you both like doing and do more of that, and over time there will be no time left for what you don't like.

How many times do we meet couples and they say, "If he changes this one thing, I will be happy," or "If she fixes this one thing, I will be happy"? That one thing never gets fixed.

Schedule and make time for joy so there is no time left for sadness.

3. Decenter men while respecting and fulfilling obligations. People pleasers and empaths struggle with this. Don't make him the reason for your happiness and existence. He is human, he is imperfect, and he will err, and he has his darkness, it's not your job to fix him. You can guide and help him, but not at the cost of your mental health. And never at the cost of losing your identity. 

Who are you without him? Not as his wife, not as the person always trying to fix the marriage, but as YOU. 

What makes you laugh? 
What makes you feel alive? 
What quiet things used to bring you joy before the heaviness of this marriage settled in?

You have to start feeding those parts of yourself again.

4. Start having routines and exercise daily. You know what they say: "Depression can't catch a moving target." Have a morning routine, dress well, stay fit, and eat clean.

Become the best version of yourself. Have dates with your sisters and friends. Become part of a community. Attend Islamic lectures. Meet new people. Do what makes you happy. 

New dress every month. 
A de-stress massage or facial. 
Coffee and a book. 
Helping someone. 
Hiking and long walks. 
Whatever makes you happy!

5. Cancel perfection and increase gratitude. Understand that perfection is not meant for this world; that's reserved for Jannah. Let go of being hard and fast. Go with the flow and be in control of your emotions. Shaytan will constantly highlight what's missing in your husband focus on what's great and increase in shukr about it. Allah will multiply it for you.

Shaytan is always at play. He wants to break what is halal. Count your blessings and give thanks to Allah for them.

6. Remember the blessing of Islam and being a Muslimah. I won’t tell you to pretend everything’s fine. It’s not. But there’s something to be said for finding meaning in your struggle.

If you are putting up with an ungrateful husband, cash good deeds on it. Keep telling Allah, "I am doing this for You, Ya Rabbi, reward me and make this easy for me." Seek reward for your sabr, for your service to a husband who doesn't appreciate it, and for the hardship with which you are bringing up your children.

You may not see but gardens of paradise where you never have to worry are being written for you. 

7. Stop comparing and competing. Don't compare your life to your friend's life. Everyone has their fair share of struggles. Never compare your "behind the scenes" with someone else's highlight reel.

8. Muslims give more importance to submission to the commands of Allah than to happiness. Sometimes doing the right thing is hard. We are chasing the Rida of Allah and not happiness. There are good times and bad times. Marriage, especially long-lasting ones, calls for a lot of forgiveness, meeting in the middle, and compromise. You will need a new version of you who is stronger to do it. Build it.

9. Don't share every little detail of your marital issues with your friends and family. Learn how to deal with them on your own. Choose your battles. Not everything is worth going to war over. Your friends and family love you, and they will amplify a spark into a full-blown fire that can and will destroy your marriage. You are his garment; protect him. Be a team. This may mean dealing with your habit of complaining and oversharing. As a wife be mature enough to understand what you should vent about. 

You are a woman now; learn what should be shared and what shouldn't be.

You may choose to stay physically because of money or children, but you don’t have to stay emotionally attached to someone who is avoidant, doesn't talk, doesn't change, and doesn't love you.

Find peace by focusing on your future. Think and dream about Jannah. Find joy in your children, even while sharing a home with a man who no longer loves you.

10. Start your own bank account and start earning money. There are so many work-from-home jobs available on Fiverr and Upwork. Instead of wasting time watching Pakistani soaps, build a skill, network, and become financially secure. Always ask Allah for self-sufficiency. Allah will provide!

11. A hard life often means easy access to Jannah. Attach yourself to the Quran, ibadah, fasting, and qiyaam. Seek happiness in your deen. This dunya is temporary. If you have the blessing of time, build on good deeds. This world is a delusion, and the tests of this life will end soon.

12. Re-evaluate before you leave your husband. If you want to divorce and leave your husband, never rush this. Always involve family, make istikhara, seek counseling, separate for a few months, and only then decide to separate. The decision of divorce shouldn't be taken in anger, with ego, or while trying to teach the other a lesson, especially when innocent children are involved. Marriage is divine, don't rush breaking it.

If things are not going well, re-evaluate your relationship and think about these questions:

- Is this a temporary crisis or the end of your relationship?
- What is the best thing that could happen if you stay together?
- What is the best thing that could happen if you divorce?
- What is the worst thing that could happen if you stay together?
- What is the worst thing that could happen if you divorce?

Have a list of pros and cons before you decide to go separate ways.

🤲 May Allah make it easy for Muslim women who are stuck in marriages they cannot leave - ameen!

- Shamsiya Noorul Quloob

Zikrullah Jauhi Syaitan

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Assalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuh اللهم صل على محمد وآل محمد

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Zikrullah Jauhi Syaitan

عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ
 أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ إِذَا دَخَلَ الرَّجُلُ بَيْتَهُ، فَذَكَرَ اللهَ عِنْدَ دُخُولِهِ وَعِنْدَ طَعَامِهِ، قَالَ الشَّيْطَانُ: لَا مَبِيتَ لَكُمْ، وَلَا عَشَاءَ، وَإِذَا دَخَلَ، فَلَمْ يَذْكُرِ اللهَ عِنْدَ دُخُولِهِ، قَالَ الشَّيْطَانُ: أَدْرَكْتُمُ الْمَبِيتَ، وَإِذَا لَمْ يَذْكُرِ اللهَ عِنْدَ طَعَامِهِ، قَالَ: أَدْرَكْتُمُ الْمَبِيتَ وَالْعَشَاءَ

Daripada Jabir bin Abdullah bahawa dia mendengar Nabi SAW bersabda: Apabila seseorang masuk ke dalam rumahnya lalu menyebut nama Allah ketika masuk rumah dan ketika hendak makan, maka syaitan akan berkata kepada kawan-kawannya: Tiada tempat menginap dan tiada makan malam untuk kamu. Tapi apabila seseorang itu masuk ke dalam rumah, tidak menyebut nama Allah ketika masuk rumah dan tidak menyebut nama Allah ketika makan, syaitan berkata: Kamu telah mendapat tempat menginap dan makan malam. (HR Muslim No: 2018) Status Hadis Sahih

Pengajaran:
 
1.    Disunatkan menyebut nama Allah ketika memasuki rumah.
 
2.    Membaca Bismillah sebelum makan merupakan sunnah yang membawa keberkatan.
 
3.    Rumah yang sentiasa dihiasi dengan zikir dan bacaan al-Quran akan dipenuhi ketenangan dan rahmat Allah SWT.
 
4.    Barangsiapa berzikir menyebut nama Allah ketika masuk rumah, syaitan akan menghindarkan diri dari rumah tersebut. Zikir menjadi benteng daripada kelalaian beribadah, gangguan syaitan terhadap rumah tangga juga dorongan maksiat.
 
5.    Kelalaian daripada berzikir mengingati Allah sama ada ketika memasuki rumah, ketika makan, minum dan sebagainya, akan membuka ruang kepada syaitan untuk mempengaruhi kehidupan manusia.
 
6.    Keberkatan rumah bukan bergantung kepada kemewahan atau saiznya, tetapi kepada sejauh mana penghuninya mengingati Allah SWT. Pastikan apabila kita memulakan sesuatu, hendaklah dimulakan dengan berzikir mengingati Allah.
 
7.    Ummul Mukminin Aisyah RA meriwayatkan bahawa Rasulullah SAW bersabda:

إِذَا أَكَلَ أَحَدُكُمْ طَعَامًا فَلْيَقُلْ: بِسْمِ اللهِ، فَإِنْ نَسِيَ فِي أَوَّلِهِ فَلْيَقُلْ: بِسْمِ اللهِ فِي أَوَّلِهِ وَآخِرِهِ

Apabila seseorang daripada kamu hendak mula makan, bacalah: Bismillah (Dengan nama Allah). Jika terlupa membacanya ketika hendak mula makan, maka bacalah: Bismillahi fi awwalihi wa akhirihi (Dengan nama Allah pada awal dan akhirnya) (HR Tirmizi No: 1858) Status Hasan Sahih
 
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